It’s a new year and with a new year comes New Years Resolutions. Though some do not like the idea of setting resolutions I love the opportunity to focus on my dreams and aspirations for the coming year. This year when I was thinking of resolutions a few great ones came to mind and I immediately set out on writing them down in my old traditional way:
- Not cutting my hair for a full 12 months. (trims are allowed but no big chops)
- Eating out of hunger and for nourishment, instead of out of boredom.
- Publishing one blog post per week.
After writing my goals down I remembered that the most effective way for me to integrate change into my life is by changing my mindset. So this year I am choosing an alternative approach to resolutions that leaves me with a much more positive frame of mind. I simply ask myself: How do you want to feel?
Instead of feeling the pressure to stick to a rigid goal, even if it is not serving me anymore, I focus on how I want to feel and this pushes me towards my goal more organically. If I want to integrate more calm into my life, for example, then I focus on ways in which I can feel more calm throughout my week and look for opportunities to make choices that will help me feel more calm throughout my day. I might start taking my lunch break consistently each day or going for a short walk to get some time in nature. With this in mind I reframed my resolutions based how I want to feel going into 2019. This year:
- I want to feel self confident.
- I want to feel nourished and healthy in my body.
- I want to feel expressive, creative and connected to something bigger than myself (a community).
An added benefit of focusing on how I want to feel instead of a specific goal, is the amount of flexibility I am allowed. By focusing on and valuing feelings over rigid benchmarks I allow myself the flexibility to modify my plan and try new things along the way to reach my overall goal. I am not stuck in a single plan or faced with the challenge of continuing on a route that doesn’t fulfill me or bring me joy.
How about you? How do you want to feel this year?